This week is always depressing as the UN International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women (with 16 days of campaigning) swings into action. Not that anyone would want to not end violence against women, it is both the demonisation of men and also the blind eye taken to the domestic and sexual violence that men suffer that sticks in the gullet.
Quite prescient considering I saw Coronation Street resurrect the Tyrone domestic abuse storyline tonight.
There are always announcements and a good example is the one on two new stalking laws yesterday. It was great that men were included in the Home Office release. It also showed that as with domestic abuse - one in three victims are male.
Then you look to the coverage - commentary from the Home Secretary only mentions women. The home page of the Home office website only mentions women. So does the Daily Mail with the Minister Jeremy Browne doing all he can to avoid mentioning men. The Telegraph does not mention men either.
As for Wales, they are pretty unreconstructed and this new White Paper and campaign on teenage relationships does not mention men or boys. Only girls suffer in Wales according to this.
Last week, we mentioned Mike was appearing at the Select Committee into Women in the Workplace. Please read his comments about it (here and here) and he kindly has supplied a link (1 hour 34 mins in) so you can watch the appearance. Must see TV and shows how sensible and responsible activism can succeed.
How do you know when you’ve won a discussion or debate with the majority of modern women? For all men out there I’m here to reveal the big secret to it – they storm off and refuse to talk about it anymore because you’re apparently being argumentative/difficult/insert your own derogatory character trait here.
Which in reality means you have outreasoned them with your point of view but, as they have been conditioned to think modern women are never wrong about anything, they won’t admit it and stomp off as a face saving exercise.
However, despair not – once you know the above then you can recognise what is really happening and not let it get to you or fall into the ‘apology’ trap. Instead, you can relax safe in the knowledge that you have sidestepped their attempt at emotional manipulation and proved your point through well presented fact.
As a further aside, what is the ‘apology’ trap I refer to above? It is a device of emotional manipulation that a lot of women use when they can’t get their own way on things.
It works like this – basically, they cry/storm off/display negative emotional behaviour that makes you feel bad even if you are in the right on whatever issue is at hand. If you let it, this in turn (as a decent human being) forces you to find some way (usually an apology or backing down even if you are right) to make them feel better.
This then ensures they get their own way come hell or high water. As a male it is imperative you recognise this type of behaviour and not respond to it – like a toddler throwing a tantrum she will soon get bored and realise this is not the way to try to get what she wants.
The use of emotion by women to attempt to control and manipulate a situation to their advantage is an extremely interesting area to ponder on. In some ways I think they are actually unable to separate the emotion from whatever situation is at hand which can lead to this and which makes them so unreasonable at times in discussions.
If it is a particularly emotive subject they are unable to focus on the facts and instead respond on the basis of how they feel. That is why, in my personal experience, many women do not make good managers or leaders as a result of this character trait that seems inherent to the female gender.
A couple of things - first as you know sometimes my work and other activities mean I am unable to keep up with posting which sometimes leaves the site looking a bit outdated. It means many readers link new articles or news in the latest post. I think this does those who kindly do that a grave disservice because they want to start a debate but I cannot keep up.
One way around this is to go back to A-level days ( I would have said O-level but only those of a certain vintage would know what I meant!) and if I post something like "GENDER PAY GAP NEWS - PLEASE DISCUSS", due to a news item then readers can comment away.
Happy for comments on this and here are some latest news articles anyhow - in no particular order:
Having witnessed years of neglect of men's' health I've been very pleased with the success of Movember this year, and it's excellent to see such issues finally getting some much needed attention. One new feature of this year's Movember is for airlines to places a moustache on their aircraft, not only do they look great, they really help raise awareness too.
Regrettably, there are still some very misandrist airlines out there who regard all men as untrustworthy child abusers and insist unaccompanied minors are only ever seated next to females on flights. One would have though that any airlines that hate men to this extent would have absolutely no interest, nor any right to have an interest in Movember, yet bizarrely Qantas have decided to take part.
Men's health isn't a simple, isolated issue where men simply go to the doctor more often or where research into cancer finally gets the funding it needs. It isn't even simply about exercise and healthy eating either. "Health" is inseparable from all other aspects of a person's life. To be healthy we need to have good mental health, home life, social relationships, self worth, and self esteem. Ultimately, just like anyone else, men need to be treated fairly, with dignity and respect.
Unfortunately, Qantas blatantly hates adult males and has no regard for their health whatsoever. As Lord McAlpine can now testify, to falsely brand a single man as a child abuser is a horrific crime, and such allegations clearly take a considerable toll on the health of the victim not to mention putting them at risk of violence. However, Qantas doesn't falsely smear one single male, but every adult male who steps on one of its planes. To openly operate a discriminatory policy suggesting all men potentially abuse children damages society and lives immeasurably. It fuels the unfair outcomes and sexist culture of the family courts, it contributes to the culture where men are unable to work as teachers or with children in other roles. It encourages further false allegations against males and the type of atmosphere where parks and other venues become no go areas for men. Above all else, it endorses the hatred of men we see from gender feminists and encourages their attacks on our society.
Simply put, false smears of child abuse against men damage their health. If Qantas cared the slightest for men (and children) they'd end their sexist seating policy immediately and apologise for their years of misandry. Instead, they pretend to like men, and paper over the cracks by painting a symbol of masculinity on their planes, a symbol their policies associate with mistrust and child abuse. Put simply, you can't claim to care about a man's health whilst simultaneously falsely branding him a child abuser. Ending such policies and admitting how hateful they are would arguably achieve more for men and their position in society in the long term than every penny raised by Movember this year.
As International Men's Day draws to a close it, watching the updates on the International Men's Day UK site today has been great viewing. There certainly is now a growing momentum on this not only with so many organisations now taking part but also there has been some media coverage. Some also used the day as leverage for a story about a barrier for men. It bodes well for next year if the team behind it in the UK can keep pushing forward.