If one issue in our times illustrates the terrible double standards faced by men, it's that of domestic violence. A prominent and topical issue is the differing ways violent and abusive pop stars are treated depending on their gender. For example, it seems barely a day goes by without some feminists condemning Chris Brown for domestic violence, and we even have a campaign of feminists vandalising CDs highlighting artists who allegedly beat women.
At the very same time we've seen female abusers openly admit to their violence and even commit it on camera, yet the media never see it as notable and certainly not wrong. This same attitude is found in the rest of society, such as in the police and justice system.
The latest major female artist to admit to domestic violence is Cheryl Cole, but you won't see any headlines condemning it. The Daily Mail has the information under a headline about her injecting vitamins into her rear end, so it's clear that domestic violence by famous women against famous men is less newsworthy than such a practice (if your'e interested, apparently the injection didn't even have much of an effect anyway). The Mail do at least report the information though, stating she admitted "shaking him, kicking him, scratching his face, pushing and shoving him like I was a lunatic". The Sun newspaper reports more details such as the following admission "I hit him in the face — I couldn’t help it". So there we go then, Cheryl Cole not only commits domestic violence against her husband, she seems rather unapologetic about the whole thing and it appears somehow she is so dangerous and out of control she is unable to stop herself from such acts and it is the victim's fault.
Just imagine if a male singer female in such a way, we'd never hear the end of it, particularly if he also had a history of violence. If I've I've missed anyone, particularly feminists, or a domestic violence charity condemning her then perhaps someone can add ti to the comments section, I certainly can't find anything though. All the media reports appears to do is portray her as the victim and allow her to excuse and give the impression violence by women is entirely justified in cases of infidelity.
Remember, unlike with cases that often hit the headlines form time to time, we aren't talking about mere, unproven allegations of domestic violence here and one persons' word against another's. Cheryl Cole has admitted to her crimes in her book and is making money off such material. Given her previous conviction, perhaps the police should have a read of it?
Anyway, for the benefit of those adding stickers to CDs of artists who commit domestic violence, here's a few you seem to have missed:
Mary J Blige
Quite an impressive line up, I wonder how many albums they've sold combined? The last individual on that list even has a domestic violence centre named after her (and I don't mean one for male victims as recompense for her crimes).
by John Kimble.
Update, thanks to "TDOM" in the comment section for pointing out the following important detail I missed:
According to Cheryl, Ashley's mistress was quoted on the internet stating "The girl said Ashley had been so drunk he couldn’t walk straight — that he was incoherent and that he was vomiting during the sex."
This indicates that this was not just an affair, but that the woman sexually assaulted him. in many jurisdictions, being incapacitated by drugs or alcohol means that he could not have consented to sex. So not only was he sexually assaulted, but he was beaten by his wife for being sexually assaulted.