From plenty of talking to and debating with various female colleagues and friends over the past few months it strikes me that the fight against misandry faces two major problems.
The first is that most of the general public fail to recognise that it even exists and that men face no inequality in the modern world. Further to this and possible more worrying is that they also still elieve that all the gender inequality in the world still happens solely to women. Both these things are a huge hurdle and that is why sites such as these and the direct action of certain individuals is so important to raise consciousness of what is really happening.
This really frustrates me when talking to women about it as, even when faced with hard evidence, they will not admit men face inequality in the modern world and claim that women are still the hard done too ones.
A classic example of this is when I was talking to a female friend about domestic violence – as usual she trotted out that it mainly happens to women and that the official statistics back this up. When I pointed out that the official statistics were flawed and it was pretty well known that men faced as much, if not more, domestic violence then she dismissed this and said that the figures don’t lie and if more men faced it now , women still faced the majority of it and it was only a handful of cases the other way round!?
Faced with this refusal to be open minded and accept the reality rather than what she had been told & chose to believe it is hard to convince anyone to change their minds.
The second major hurdle I think we face is that, if it is admitted that society is unequal against men now, then it is only payback for what has happened in the past and is therefore acceptable. This view, which many reasonable women hold, in effect gives the modern women carte blanche to behave as she wants towards men without reproach and also the misandry prevalent in society is allowed to grow unhindered. This use of the past also allows women to still play the victim role in society which allows them to behave as they do now.
I have to add that all the people I talked too were normal, reasonable members of the general public which is worrying as this would suggest the general public still swallow the anti-male feminist agenda
that is the norm at the moment.
How to overcome these hurdles? I think we need to carry on as we are as I think inroads are being made despite the above. More raising of the issues on the internet and media and as much actual action as possible – also more people in government and high placed roles to fight our cause there.
It is a long road but we will get there in the end.
Posted by Anthony Humphries